Why is seeking help a taboo or a deciding factor for your social status of being sane?
Is going to a therapist wrong? Does it mean you’re crazy?
Why is it a dirty little secret?
It seems felonious to know someone who goes for therapy. Why? Why does all the elbow hitting start when you see a relative of yours who’s in therapy, arrive at the party? Why does our mind start with its judgments? Why is it so wrong to seek help?
A human congregates all his courage in conceding the need but is always hesitant to seek it because how can he? He is petrified to come out of the closet to perceive the pronouncement of being insane. And what do we do about it? We show the audacity to call someone crazy! We push him towards the murkiness, in believing that he is as daft as a brush.
He knows something is wrong but instead of making it right, the individual focuses on covering up his dirty little secret as if he committed a crime by acknowledging the need to seek help. Eventually forced to believe that therapy is for the crazy ones, the fear of being caught outside the clinic by someone known bubbles up. People don’t even want to accompany their known ones to a clinic because what if the trespassers think that they’re the patient.
If we can go to visit a dermatologist to get rid of acne, a general doctor for viruses, a dentist for toothache, then why not a shrink if we’re having some issues with our mental health! It is part of our body too; our brain needs as much attention as the rest of our body does. Why do we find it acceptable to ignore our brain and its issues?
We often come across hypocrites who say that they are ‘carefree’ and don’t get affected by what society thinks yet when they see a relative of their own who is seeking help, they start feeling sorry for the person.You don’t need to! Feeling sorry for them is not the solution.
They don’t need our sympathy, what they truly need is our support and if that is too much then nothing at all. There are some of us who say we don’t give a damn to what people think yet fear in asking ourselves whether we’re fine or not or whether we need help or not.
It’s not entirely our fault, the upbringing, the environment where young minds are nurtured contributes majorly towards this mentality. If a child is having mental problems and approaches the parents then, there are parents who often say that ‘No! you aren’t crazy’! They feel that it’s just a phase, and it’s all in the mind, which gradually makes the visit to a psychologist a forbidden task.
Majority believes that kids are too small and young to have issues regarding their mental health.They find it horribly wrong if a kid says that he isn’t fine mentally.They force him to think otherwise and that is how some of us grew up! Believing that mental health is a wrong category. We feel that only adults can have issues and not kids. At such a tender age your child is developing problems, then instead of thinking of it as a shame, look into the matter and help them by being there for them and by listening to them instead of shushing them! There isn’t a certain age group set for such issues. Anyone, irrespective of their age, their loss, their achievements, their happy face, and their normal lifestyle can be suffering.
Valiant are those who can acknowledge that they aren’t fine and understand that there are some issues that need to be dealt with. The ones who do something about it and take a step forward. And who deal with it gracefully no matter how much it takes from them because they know that their loss is going to be nothing infront of what they are going to gain. It takes your peace, your strength, your belief, your trust, your power, your sleep and so much more, which many of us will never come to know.
All I want to say to them is even if you’re not okay, and if you’re not doing fine just know that you’re strong enough and you will fight it out, no matter how weak you get in the process, you know you will do it. And sometimes it is just okay to be not okay.
Whether the reason for your discomfort is minor or major, no one gets to decide that apart from you, yourself. No one can put it under a category. Only you know what it means to you. For others it might be inconsequential but if for you it’s colossal, then it is ! And there is no hiding in that.
Your life is too precious to be wasted in hiding from yourself. Live and speak up. Speak up to yourself. Acknowledge your need and let your loved ones know about it. It is just a problem that has a solution.
It’s a humble request to you all to spread awareness and enlighten the ones who don’t see mental health as a part of health!
Keep shining and smiling.